Simple ways people have made me feel good
a non-comprehensive list of little and little bit bigger ways people do kind things
There is a lot of sadness and despair in the world right now and it doesn’t take a lot of brain power to understand why.
I have tried talking about ways people can support trans people and hopefully people are doing those things but I don’t know. Maybe if I share things you have already done or things I have seen actually happen that have already made me feel good, that will shed some light on how supporting trans people translates to real life happiness.
Correcting my pronouns when someone else makes a mistake for them.
Sending me a message saying you were thinking of me.
Being part of my close friends list on Instagram and not hating it.
Someone sent me lingerie and while I do not expect this of people, that was a real shot to the feels.
Telling me that the stories I have shared have helped with their own transition or with the transition of a partner.
Using “Miss” for me when I am out in public. Look, I’m old, I will be Miss, I don’t care one bit.
Hanging out with me when I’m out in public wearing feminine clothing (this was very big in early transition days).
Sending me food while I was recovering from facial feminization surgery.
Complimenting any dress I wear.
Talking to me about makeup. Not so much in an instructional way, just chatting, like we’re just a couple of people chatting about what we like.
Followed me and listened to my experiences and shared them in any manner.
I can make another of these lists of things people have done for me in my life to outline the simple, practical, in many cases, free, ways one makes a trans person feel safe and loved. I’m grateful to the people who have made a difference to me and I am sure the people you have made a difference for are grateful as well. Small things can feel big.
